Measure your social and speaking activity
My answer is that you want to be looking for activities - activity in general, of course, but particularly speaking activity.
And very specifically, your speaking activity where you choose to speak
even though you don't have to!
There’s always an option to raise your hand or not raise your hand, to go there or not go there, to speak or not speak, to start a conversation or not start a conversation, to continue the conversation or to say, “Oh, I need to go,” or “I don’t know.” There is always a path of activity vs a path of escaping that activity, especially speaking experiences.
Now, of course, I understand that it’s hard to seek out speaking activities and create speaking experiences when you stutter. It might be difficult even to imagine that.
But I want to mention Cameron Raynes and his interview, where he shared a perspective that helped him make tremendous progress with stuttering.
In particular, he decided to redefine what makes a 'good' or 'bad' day. He thought, what if a good day isn’t the day where I stutter less, but rather a day where I stutter more?
Wow.