Stuttering & Freedom as states
Doing all those practices and exercises is a beautiful start, but honestly, we still stay at square one.
Why?
Because we still stay reactive. I oftentimes see people in the stuttering support groups giving each other tips. Try this or try that. Try this for what? What for? To escape stuttering better. You can call it to “manage” stuttering better. You can call it to “deal with” stuttering better. No matter how you call it you stay reactive. We want to protect ourselves better. We’re still staying in the shell.
Exactly the same tips, exactly the same tools can “not work” and work like magic depending on your internal state.
And in this reactive mood, in this approach, in this state there’s no way to bring real change. Even the best tools “won’t work.”
This is a background underlying automated state of stuttering. Reactive state. Hiding and escaping state. Alert. Anxiety. Tension. Uncertainty.
That state - that’s what we want to change.
So learning some tools is the first step out of 100 steps that you need to take. What are the other 99 steps? One and the only thing. That’s the best thing to prepare for any hard situation.
That’s the only metric that you want to measure.That’s the real measure of your progress. What is it?
Creating. In our case, creating hard speaking situations. Gradually exposing yourself to those hard speaking situations.
Like for example in the Free From Stutter Program, we create phone calls right in the video sessions, we create public speaking environment by going live in the Free From Stutter Facebook group, we go to the store asking for a particular item while being in the video session recording it to our files.
Those situations don’t feel like an exam anymore, they feel like an exercise.
You gradually get into the habit of performing and creating. And this habit gradually builds a totally new state of being open, active, and positive about speaking interaction. The state of freedom.